Presenting a Theory of Romance: Parts: 1. Pure love 2. Sexual attraction 3. Commitment 1+2 = Infatuation 1+3 = Deep friendship 2+3 = Fwb's 1+2+3 = Romantic love
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I've never heard of a person who completely lacks any kind of attraction level difference between, say, a gangrenous homeless person and an everyday model. Even nonsexually, everyone has people they like being physically close to vs. ones they don't, right?
There are definitely people who don't like to be close to anyone. Beyond that... there's a distinction between appeal, lack of repulsion, and attraction I think? Someone can be aesthetically pleasing, you might not mind being close to them, but that doesn't mean you're attracted
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BTW I'm totally confused about the nature of romance in general, so I'm sharing the confusion rather than suggesting that I understand the answer.
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I appreciate this note :-) Since sufficiently advanced confusion can be indistinguishable from deep understanding, I'd love to hear more about your confusion around romance!
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I think I agree with that distinction. As for people who don't like to be close to anyone, though... My honest interpretation is that they're probably (small-t) traumatized in some way; I can't imagine more than .1% of people are naturally like that. Would you disagree?
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Yes, I'd agree with that. Some people seem to be like that without any obvious trauma but I can't help but feel that it doesn't seem like a healthy state and there's probably *something* bad for their mental health going on there.
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