I'm generally of the opinion that honesty and mutual cooperation with people are the path to a better future for everyone, but it must be noted that for this purpose neither your boss nor your landlord counts as a person.
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Replying to @Kirsten3531
That's how they get you. (Your manager isn't necessarily who I mean by "your boss" though - a manager-report relationship is less intrinsically adversarial)
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Replying to @GeniesLoki
I've lived here for 6 years in two different units and landlord has yet to ruthlessly exploit me Almost like... it's good business to have happy longterm tenants?
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Replying to @Kirsten3531 @GeniesLoki
You could say "everyone you have a relationship with that involves the transfer of money doesn't count as a person" and that'd be more consistent but that's not what I believe "Be soft on the person, hard on the problem" - Getting to Yes
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Replying to @Kirsten3531
It's not about the money, it's about the dramatic power imbalance.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @Kirsten3531
This is one of the cases where my strategy is to maintain two separate internal agents: one pro-social optimist that genuinely cares, and one self-preserving pessimist that makes sure I don’t get screwed over. They’re both useful and it doesn’t matter too much which is “correct”
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Which one is primarily active at any moment depends on all sorts of contextual things. Somehow it does help me (I feel less conflicted) to not think of my boss as “kind of good, kind of bad” but just about myself as having two separate needs/drives
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Honestly it's less about whether the person in question is a bad person and more about whether ignoring the fact that they have the potential to be is safe. Everyone might be secretly evil, but what level of P(evil) should be treated as safe depends on their power over you.
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It's well known that bosses tend to score highly for psychopathic traits, so the fact they seem superficially nice doesn't count for much when evaluating P(evil).
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