GeniesLoki

Ex: knowing you’ve done physics phd research, and still starting an explanation like “you see, there’s this field called *quantum mechanics* that says that energy comes in tiny pack—“ (I just have not seen men do this to each other at nearly the rate I’ve experienced it)

the thing is, men are incentivized to talk like that because girls want it -- just on a topic that they truly don't understand. it only feels demeaning when they assume a prior level of knowledge that you actually have.

physics phd girl wants a man who can mansplain her the latest advances in quantum field theory -- then she feels like she's got somewhere

I am unconvinced that this is true. I think most people of any gender want conversations they can participate in as equals (even if not in knowledge). The sort of protocol failure that is occurring during mansplaining doesn't lead to that even if it's genuinely novel information.

As a peer to peer work-y kind of frame, sure people want to be roughly equals. But as a sexual frame women want to be explained to. So the mansplain is an attempt to turn the social frame into a sexual frame.

Hmm, I can imagine the sort of thing you’re pointing to, but I think something is off. I *do* want to date intelligent, competent, interesting men who *could* explain things to me, for sure. But that feels fundamentally different from “I want to be explained to.”

yeah yeah my phrasing is a bit off but you do get the thing i am pointing tohttps://twitter.com/jack_meditates/status/1302139803031478272 …

Yeah, I think I agree that a lot of mansplaining is an attempt to demonstrate competence as part of sexual interest, but my point is that I think if that's what they're doing then mansplaining and mansplaining-adjacent conversation is an example of fucking it up.