Hmm. Speculative thought, not sure if I believe it or not, but it feels truthy: The major division in masculine vs feminine conversation norms is whose responsibility it is to manage your feelings about the conversation. Male norms say it's yours, female norms say it's mine.
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Mostly I mean I don't know what the versions that live in most people's heads are.
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as an older brother i was always yelled at if my sister was hurt or crying - even if her being hurt was nothing to do with me. i ended up internalising the norms you describe as feminine super hard.
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it was framed as masculine in my upbringing though. never hurting or offending others meant you were a "gentleman" or you "knew your own strength" or that you were a "gentle giant"... all comforting masculine coded archetypes
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Related: most men default to problem solving mindset when people want to have their feelings or state of mind just listened to
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