I think about this a lot, really. I feel like our basic model of therapy is entirely wrong, and treating it as a thing that individuals can do to fix themselves both ignores most of its benefits and limits the ability of the individual to actually change.https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1300736048432140291 …
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Most therapy should be group therapy with friends.
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i'd think of therapy as a place where you can bootstrap one (1) normal, empathetic, supportive relationship, which enables you to build the skills to get things like friends (ie. people you have normal, empathetic, supportive relationships with, not just people you hang out with)
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i'm not sure how much one would need therapy if one had, for example, functioning parents
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I think people with nonfunctioning parents really underestimate the rest of society's ability to fuck kids up TBH. My parents are pretty great, so most of my copious childhood trauma is school related instead.
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what i mean is that when something traumatizes you, you have an empathetic and supportive parent to talk it through with in lieu of a therapist
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"Parents who you feel comfortable discussing _everything_ potentially traumatic with" sounds like a much higher bar than just "functioning parents" to me.
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Yeah. It also assumes a level of competence in their ability to understand the situation and offer useful advice on it that goes well beyond empathy. Like there's more skill involved to being a therapist than just being a good person. They do actually know things.
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This is also relevant: part of a child's trauma may come simply from misinterpreting something. If it then manifests as e.g. a vague feeling of worthlessness, nobody involved - the child or the parents - might have any clue of where it's coming from or how to deal with it.pic.twitter.com/JflIZqqSNS
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on whether therapy helps at the individual level at all - I think it's much more useful to have a whole bunch of therapy skills in the water in a community than therapy is for individuals themselves.