Uh, that the therapy relationship is about genuine healthy human connection and the relationship between the therapist and the patient, rather than a professional transaction in which you are paying the therapist to help you sort yourself out.
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Why do those have to be mutually exclusive? Does the professional transaction negate the possibility of a genuine connection (albeit one that exists in a bounded space)?
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Replying to @andreajmedaris @GeniesLoki and
I came here to ask this. Do I not have a warm human connection with my colleagues, housemates, etc because money is involved? Do I not have one with the people I volunteer to help, because they don't help me back?
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Replying to @leonalobster @andreajmedaris and
The limiting factor of the therapeutic relationship is not that "money is involved" but that it's something you're paying for by the hour and goes away when you stop paying for it, which is a much more specific scenario.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @leonalobster and
I think it's important to have a good relationship with the therapist, but it's necessarily a fairly specific type of working relationship, and does not serve well as a prototype for relationships more broadly.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @andreajmedaris and
I agree with that. Also I've observed some confusion on the part of clients who feel they have a great friendship (or romantic connection) with their therapist. I don't think therapists typically believe this though, or that any school of therapy would encourage them to
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Replying to @leonalobster @andreajmedaris and
I don't think they encourage them to form friendships or romantic relationships with clients, certainly, but they do encourage centring the relationship between the therapist and the client in a way that may be helpful for some people but I was not a fan of.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @leonalobster and
That is definitely true in humanistic/gestalt schools. More CBT/solution-focused folks are often less about that and more about skills
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Replying to @andreajmedaris @leonalobster and
Yeah, I agree. Gestalt was specifically what I was thinking of and where my personal experience of this was from.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @leonalobster and
You made a good choice backing away from that if you don't like the relationship!
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Replying to @andreajmedaris @leonalobster and
I did! Though it was a shame in some ways, because gestalt did have features I was looking for - I didn't see a CBT therapist because those are the bits I was already good at. This is why I basically ended up deciding to DIY.
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