GeniesLoki

That’s a good point

This is kinda what I was getting at in https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1298198816001331200 … If yo look at typical feminine examples of emotional labour yeah 100% men do less of that. Male emotional labour is generally about not exhibiting emotion rather than exhibiting it.

Another example of male emotional labour is making women feel safe around them. e.g. an angry man is treated as intrinsically unsafe, so when men feel anger they have to do a lot of work to manage perception if they don't want to scare people. (Many men don't do this of course)

To be fair, men on average are more dangerous. People probably know this instinctually or can identify certain features in the face and physiology of a man who is stronger and a better fighter. People use heuristics for safety/survival, not that they’re w/o drawbacks

Note that I didn't say men shouldn't do this! It's very reasonable and mostly good that men do this. "Emotional labour" doesn't mean "bad", it means "work done to manage emotions".

True I just mean, people’s survival via avoiding angry men might be worth the suffering [angry] men experience or the work they have to do. It’s work cuz it’s tasking innit

I’m not sure there’s a way to change this in ways that aren’t more harmful than good; the equilibrium is p shitty This, assuming men with features that are perceived to be and characteristic of ‘better fighters or less emotionally stable’ are indeed *biologically* ‘ ‘

I think there's clearly something dysfunctional in how we handle male anger as a society, and I suspect over all it results in less safety because men end up bottling up anger until they either snap or decide that if they're going to be treated as unsafe anyway why bother trying?