I've noticed since I've gotten married that we follow gender roles much more than I'd expect. My feminism meant I wanted us to just do what we're best at and wanted that to be nontraditional but it turns out we're best at the things we've been socialized to do. 
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Replying to @Kirsten3531
Yes, I think this is a common pattern in opposite gender couples. I think trying to fix it requires actively planning it out and learning from and teaching each other, which is hard work.
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Replying to @GeniesLoki @Kirsten3531
It also probably requires accepting things be done to a lower standard than they could be. e.g. I've seen this pattern a lot with cleaning with several friends: One has a very high standard for cleanliness, the other a very low. One needs to step up, other to chill out.
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Yes, I've particularly seen this trap with some female friends requiring things to be done a certain way, and their husbands being "unable" to do it "properly", so the wives do a lot more work. We've thankfully avoided that trap! We're happy for either of us to do several tasks
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Yeah. That can of course be strategic helplessness on their part - at least one of the examples I have in mind I think the man is being a total ass (although I do think the woman needs to chill out at least a little bit)
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