I've noticed since I've gotten married that we follow gender roles much more than I'd expect. My feminism meant I wanted us to just do what we're best at and wanted that to be nontraditional but it turns out we're best at the things we've been socialized to do. 
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(This mostly but not entirely tracks the expected gender lines - I have friends where the one who needed to step up was the woman. Having lived with said woman in the past she *really* needed to step up, and mostly did)
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Yes, I've particularly seen this trap with some female friends requiring things to be done a certain way, and their husbands being "unable" to do it "properly", so the wives do a lot more work. We've thankfully avoided that trap! We're happy for either of us to do several tasks
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eg When we got a dishwasher, he took over vacuuming from me.
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Yeah, this is a tricky one, because there isn't an obvious "fair" equilibrium. What my gf and I have been trying: the person with lower standards can skip the chore until the person with higher standards asks them to do it. Trading cognitive "tracking" effort for chore effort.
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My impression is that for most people this comes up not just in frequency with which it's done but also the standard to which it's done though - they do it, but they do it sufficiently well that the person with higher standards kinda wishes they hadn't.
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