GeniesLoki

What if the reason why women do most of the emotional labour is that we don't count it as emotional labour when men do it? (I was surprisingly reluctant to tweet this even on alt)

(This is even before we get to the "Well actually if you read The Managed Heart, you'll find that emotional labour *really* means..." criticism which I also think is valid)

The basic problem is that doing emotional labour more or less requires performing gender roles, and performing feminine gender roles involve expressing emotion and performing masculine gender roles involves suppressing it. The former is much more visible than the latter.

Examples.https://twitter.com/GeniesLoki/status/1298200548328513536 …

Do I understand you correctly? Emotional labour for men means something like "keeping your shit together and not being controlled by emotions in difficult situations"?

Yes.