What if the reason why women do most of the emotional labour is that we don't count it as emotional labour when men do it? (I was surprisingly reluctant to tweet this even on alt)
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i like this framing, but i guess the problem still stands which is that women feel that men don't do enough, well, feminine emotional labor? i wonder if a change in perception would help in that
I think it's broadly true that men don't do enough feminine emotional labour and "Why are men so damn bad about talking about their feelings??"* is an ongoing source of stress for me, but (cont) * it's because trauma and bad gender norms
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If men are going to start doing more feminine-coded emotional labour they're necessarily going to be doing less masculine-coded emotional labour because: * Expressing and suppressing emotion are naturally in tension * This is asking them to do twice as much work if they don't.
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hm, yeah as a man* who always felt has the emotional infrastructure of a woman, i find myself doing a fair amount of feminine-coded emotional labor (and i'm ok with that), but idk how that impacts the masculine-coded ones hm *bigender/genderfluid, but you know, biologically
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