What if the reason why women do most of the emotional labour is that we don't count it as emotional labour when men do it? (I was surprisingly reluctant to tweet this even on alt)
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Responsible for whether others/the whole group or family are seen as “safe” by others. There are definitely examples of men being expected to take that responsibility, though. Will definitely keep my eye open to see if those situations seem more frequent than I’m thinking rn
Yeah, don't get me wrong, there's lots of emotional labour that women are expected to do that men aren't! I'm not suggesting that women do less emotional labour than we tend to claim, just that men and women do different sorts and the male kind is often ignored.
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There's a lot of invisible emotional labour going on that we don't see in general I think, and I think male emotional labour is both more likely to come under that heading and less likely to be talked about.
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Totally get it, I think I’m coming from a place that’s a little defensive bc some people I interact basically don’t think emotional labor is even “real”. I’m finding your thought and examples really helpful
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BTW nk I agree with what you said earlier that men tend to get rewarded more for doing feminine-coded emotional labour - I think this is because it's not socially required.
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