GeniesLoki

I feel like people theorising the link between kinks and trauma often miss the point. You don't need complex theories to explain why someone is into a particular kink - it's just fun. What you need to explain is why people are stuck in a particular range of fun things.

So I think people (including me at first) are not understanding you because things like "kinks don't require some causal explanation" sounds like "some things are just magically inherently fun and their fun-ness is not explained by evolutionary psychology or anything".

I think the point you're actually making is "kinks would be fun regardless: they tap into same reasons of fun as anything else, so trauma is an unnecessary inference in the same way that 'people like watching movies' is straightforward to explain without bringing in trauma".