GeniesLoki

I feel like people theorising the link between kinks and trauma often miss the point. You don't need complex theories to explain why someone is into a particular kink - it's just fun. What you need to explain is why people are stuck in a particular range of fun things.

I think you're conflating explaining things with justifying things. Yes, it being fun and pleasurable is enough to justify doing it! But explaining it further than that gives you power of understanding that you can use to foster even deeper acceptance. Or shame more, yknow, power

I don't think I am and I'm a little confused that you do? I'm not discouraging people from trying to understand their kinks. I'm saying "Why do I do this thing?" is not the bit that particularly requires explanation given that it's fun and pleasurable.