GeniesLoki

1. Actually treating interpersonal issues as problems to be solved is very good. The thing you are doing wrong is *not getting the other person on board with solving them together*. (If you can't do that, they're the problem to be solved. Sucks to be them)

2. An important point related to (1) is that problem solving skills aren't the only thing you need to be good at. At some point you get bottle necked on communication skills.

3. Yes some problems can't or shouldn't be solved and it's important to recognise those and not attempt to solve them. Don't grind INT without also putting some points in WIS (in much the same way that you shouldn't treat CHA as a dump stat as per above).

4. "Domain knowledge is better" is a bad take and you're wrong, sorry. I've worked with a lot of domain experts who really should have spent more time investing in basic problem solving skills. You *also* need domain knowledge, but the foundations are important.

5. Yes there are a lot of complex emotional dynamics around this and I mostly agree with what is being said about this but maybe "I'm self-sabotaging because I have ~feelings~ about this subject" is the first problem you should learn to solve?

6. On the subject of emotional dynamics: A general purpose problem skill almost everyone is underinvested in is what to do when you get stuck. Most people go "Welp I tried" then get sad and frustrated and give up, rather than sit with the feeling and apply some standard tools.

7. Another general purpose problem solving skill people are under-invested in is asking good questions - especially of Google - in order to try to figure out how other people have approached this problem.

8. There's a sort of meta-problem-solving skill of learning from your problem solving by paying attention to what you did and learning from it. Generally when you solve interesting problems you should get better at solving problems like them in future.