How about you actually just trust her when she says what she needs?
Don't presume you know more about someone's needs than they do. Especially when you inherit multiple axis of privilege over them.
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How do you know: - it happened at her place and not a friends? - that they didn't catch the perp? - that she hasn't already made plans to move? - that your one experience scales at all in any way? You don't. You assumed you knew better.
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And rather than doing what was asked you presumptively assumed you had a better solution because you think you are wiser somehow. That is privilege speaking.
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I never claimed to know more. I stated an opinion. Last I checked, an opinion wasn't a requirement to follow. I am well aware of my privilege over her, I was, yet again, making an observation on experience. I care for people's well being and clearly it didn't come across that way
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How about no one asked for your fucking opinion
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This is Twitter, everyone is asking for everyone's opinion on things. How about I didn't ask for yours? How about since this entire damn thing angers you so much you block me like OP did and move on? Sorry to OP and the woman for this exchange, but I won't be badgered.
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Learn to teach people how to be better rather than only berate them.
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Lmfao, you have overlooked like 4 calm teaching moments in this conversation.
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Telling me things without explanation isn't teaching. Yes I know I have privilege over her, explain how me stating my observation how i did uses that?
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Jesus fucking christ why do I have to be the one to tell you that unsolicited opinions are not currency nor are particularly welcome with someone whose friend is dealing with a violent, racist incident?
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your observation contributed nothing; your continued posturing as the victim contributes nothing. She asked for money, you couls have given it, shared the post, or done nothing. No one sought out your inexpert advice.
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