Earen

@Earen13

Psych student. CSA survivor, DID, PTSD, POCD. MAP ally. Restorative/transformative justice. Ex-offender support. Primary prevention. Anti-contact.

Joined December 2018

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  1. Pinned Tweet
    10 Dec 2018

    In case you need to hear this tonight, you are not a monster. You are not worthless. You are not unlovable. There will be people who do not understand, but there will be others who are right for you, and who welcome you with open arms.

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  2. Retweeted
    18 minutes ago

    I hadn't thought to mention this before but another reason I believe there should be a public discourse (instead of taboo) around MAP attraction is because this would offer a much more supportive environment to parents whose child discloses they are a MAP.

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  3. Retweeted
    16 hours ago

    It doesn't matter it if pedophilia is pathologized. People with physical disabilities have pathologies, but it doesn't reduce their human rights one bit. Indeed, thinking of pedophilia as a sexual disability would go a long way both in reducing child abuse and to being humane.

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  4. Retweeted
    5 hours ago
    Replying to and

    Harm resulting from acting on desire is a legal issue, not a medical one. Treatment may be required but treatment doesn’t need a psychiatric diagnosis, we intervene psychologically with all sorts of behaviours that are disorders in and of themselves.

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  5. Retweeted
    50 minutes ago

    The worst thing that will happen is someone will talk about their attraction, you will become uncomfortable, and you will make them uncomfortable. We really don’t have secrets worth exposing. But most of you still don’t want to hear us talk about it.

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  6. 48 minutes ago

    I dunno why every anti out there thinks they can just make wild statements and twist words around and other such fucknannery. We deal with it all the time, and whatever you've got to say or fabricate, we've probably already heard it, and are going to be practiced at responding.

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  7. Retweeted
    1 hour ago
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    In my experience the community tries to facilitate people toward therapy, including e.g. discussing ways to get reassurance on potential misreporting, so that it doesn't put people off.

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  8. Retweeted
    57 minutes ago

    Good morning. I’m still a pedophile. I still don’t think children can consent to romantic of sexual advances. And I still deserve to exist and be treated as a human being, and so do you.

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  9. 5 hours ago

    most perpetrators of CSA are situational offenders, and not attracted to children). Start blaming your abuser, and stop abusing other, unrelated, real human beings for assumptions you make about who they are as people. /end

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  10. 5 hours ago

    The person who harmed you made a choice to do so, and that is not someone else's fault, who wasnt't even there, had nothing to do with it- maybe wasn't even alive at the time. Stop blaming your abuser's attraction (whether they had it or not- remember the stats: /14

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  11. 5 hours ago

    And whether you call it an orientation, a paraphilia, a disorder, or something else- it did not cause your abuse. None of these things do. No person abuses because they have an orientation, or a paraphilia, or a disorder. They abuse because they make a choice to abuse. /13

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  12. 5 hours ago

    Make no mistake: intensely negative, factually-inaccurate bias is bigotry, and harassing, guilting, gaslighting, or shaming someone for/about a part of themselves they did not choose and cannot change IS abuse. /12

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  13. 5 hours ago

    context of your own life, not ever by pushing your hatred onto another person. /11

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  14. 5 hours ago

    in the process. Hating and trying to hurt someone because in one way they are a little bit like your abuser, and reacting as though they are or must become an abuser themselves when that is not true, is a sign of very poor boundaries, and something you need to solve in the /10

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  15. 5 hours ago

    cannot solve it by exercising brute force or manipulation in an attempt to change or harm them. Even if you could change it, your own hurt would not be healed, and more hurt would not be prevented. No one would be saved from abuse, only subjected to the harm you chose to cause /9

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  16. 5 hours ago

    It is actively unhealthy for you and harmful of you to react to pain by trying to force another human being into being something they are not, and cannot be, for your own comfort. Your emotional reaction to their existence has nothing to do with them, and you /8

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  17. 5 hours ago

    For some people, it does not. Either way, it cannot be changed by therapy (or by castration), by shame, by support, or just by wishing hard enough. It is a part of who someone is, and it exists separate from action. /7

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  18. 5 hours ago

    Minor-attraction describes a set of chronophilias. Everyone who is attracted to another person has a chronophilia, and chronophilia is as innate and unchangeable as gender-based orientation. For some people, their inborn age-based orientation grows with them. /6

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  19. 5 hours ago

    based on an association you make between them and your abuse. It is also an acknowledgement that orientation does not cause abuse, and most CSA is perpetrated by situational offenders, not MAPs. Some studies with statistics: /5

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  20. 5 hours ago

    This is an acknowledgement that abusing another person is not healing. If you harm or attempt to harm MAPs because of your feelings about your trauma history, you are taking a destructive and self-destructive action into someone else's space, to harm them /4

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  21. 5 hours ago

    This is not meant to invalidate your pain. It is not a dismissal or a claim your abuse did not happen or your pain is not real. You have pain and you deserve safe, comfortable spaces in which to process and heal. /3

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