Shit howdy!

If you're just now finding out that people might find you disruptive or obnoxious and wondering why nobody has said anything to you in the past, here's my un-asked-for perspective as someone who has run public events for years and who attends others' events as often as possible:

This is all very well said and I can agree with most of it but I suppose where I lie is that I still feel that a public event runner must get past their conflict aversion if they want to run events publicly.

"Hoping people just know better" isn't strictly different from putting the burden of self reflection on others.

Don't we have some base expectation of polite behavior in public spaces, though? Perhaps this is blunt, but don't we expect people to know not to scream in a restaurant? Or talk with their phone on speaker on a crowded bus? Is there any point when we're responsible for ourselves?

What if it's someone's character to do such things though? If you've a problem with that you're going to have to actively tell them to tone down their character, if it makes them double down and actively disrupt, well, theres a report for that! So it's no worry really

All characters aren't made for all situations, though. If I have a character who hates religion show up at a religious event to loudly complain, people will call me disruptive despite it being IC for me to do so. A conscientious writer choses a character to match the scene/vibe.

Right, but then you can message them about it if as the Event Hoster it is something you do not support. People aren't aware where and where not their character is appreciated, and it would be best to just send a quick whisper if it did happen.