1/ Right, so. Occasionally I get an upset email from someone who wants to complain about the economics of sex and why I enable it.
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4/ The idea, if you haven’t encountered it is treating sex like an issue of supply and demand. Men want sex more ergo, women set the price.
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4a/ I wrote a little about this here:http://www.doctornerdlove.com/the-economics-of-sex/ …
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5/ Long story short: Women hold out for
$PRICE while dudes try to bargain it down. This, as you might imagine, doesn’t go over well. -
6/ I mean beyond the basic dehumanizing aspect, it also sets men and women up as antagonists/opponents.
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6a/ (Notice it’s always straight men and women. This never seems to come up WRT LGBT relationships.)
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7/ Now, I’m gonna be going into this in more detail on this week’s Paging Dr. NerdLove but there’s an inherent flaw in this market metaphor.
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8/ Y’know. Beyond the obvious ickiness and sex-negative attitudes that manage to ignore a wide spectrum of sexual desires and agency.
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9/ The “market price of sex” is predicated on the idea that it’s strict supply and demand where masculine desire sets the price.
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10/ The “supply” is “controlled” by women, for whom sex is cheap, therefore profit from setting the market price high as it will go.
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11/ In fact, you’ll see folks on Incel forums talking about how to deflate the market value. Usually via sexbots and MGTOW bullshit.
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12/ “When we don’t need them to get off, they’ll have to give it up to us so we’ll protect them!”pic.twitter.com/0R2ks0XYfH
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13/ The flaw in the thinking is that the “price” of sex is 0 for women. They just have to lay there and think of England, etc.
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14/ Except it isn’t. If we accept the market value metaphor (ick), the “profit” for women is razor thin b/c the *cost* to them is damn high.
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15/ The risks involved with sex are invariably heavier on women. Pregnancy, STIs, social stigma, rape, murder.
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16/ It’s the Margaret Atwood quote: men are afraid they’ll get laughed at, women are afraid they’ll get murdered.
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17/ As has been shown in repeated studies: part of what makes women more likely to be down for casual sex? LESS RISK OF BEING MURDERED.
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18/ So. My dudes. Want to make sex “cost” less? Well, stop using that fucking metaphor. Seriously, it’s gross.
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19/ But while you’re doing that: come get your boys. Changing the economics of sex is all about making shit *safer* all around.
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20/ Better sex-ed. Better contraception/STI protection and testing. And teaching your bros TO QUIT BEING THREATS TO WOMEN.
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21/ Yeah, yeah,
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22/ Cuz, fucked up thing? Women’ve been saying this. Dudes don’t wanna hear it from them. But they’ll listen to other guys.
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23/ (Also, freaking listen to women, they’ve been trying to tell you this shit for decades.)
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24/ Like I said: going more into this on the podcast, and probably next Monday too.
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25/ (And if you like my writing… did I mention I have a Patreon and patrons see my stuff early? http://Patreon.com/DrNerdLove ) /fin
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