Rolf Degen

The missing factor! So much resonates, given the extreme personality differences between my two offspring. I treated them differently, because they acted differently toward me. Parents, take a deep breath - it wasn't *all* your fault.

Most parents of multiple kids knows this. I discipline my 3 children differently to be most effective with each.

@jordanbpeterson "Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them."

I think anyone who is thoughtful in their parenting and has more than one child for comparison, knows this to be true

Anyone who had ever raised children knows this. I like science, but sometimes it's terrible at figuring out the obvious.

We are getting closer to proving scientifically to my sibling that I was the favorite!

there are 2 parents. look at interaction

meni se ovo vrzmalo po glavi od kad sam nekad pročitala nasumičan tvit osobe koja je pokušavala okolini objasniti da nije blago njoj sa takvom dobrom decom i da to nije palo s neba nego se s njima radilo - oduvek sam mislila i da je blago i da se radilo

Well what this study ignores is the power dynamic inherent in the parent-child relationship - and the responsibility of the "adult" to help the child best mediate his or her environment given whatever "genetic" personality traits they may have inherited.

Why does this not surprise me? I'd love to see more research on the topic though.

Actually, such ideas have been around for quite a while. Two names that come to mind are Overton, and Richard Lerner. I'm sure there are more.

Child characteristics could also play into how said child internalizes parenting. That could cause issues too. Having said that, this child centered thing has caused spoilt and entitled children. So ugly.

Also, irrespective of my children’s personalities, I think it’s important to maintain a parent centered household. Otherwise things get really out of control. Everyone must follow the house rules, otherwise chaos ensues.

I’ve talked about this with friends and other moms with regards to our kids and parenting, so we are very aware, but it’s great to see something like this to validate what’s going on, especially when kids play parents off each other & manipulate.