maybe I could simplify it down to this: 0.1% of people is A LOT OF PEOPLE if you can win over 0.1% of people, you can have an amazing life on many fronts if your market is 0.1% of people, you can make a very comfortable living selling to them
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ironically, if you try to appeal to 80-90% of people, most of them won't be interested in you, unless you are a top 0.1% player do you see the kind of odd paradox here? something like... trying to keep your options open can actually reduce your Actually Viable options
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yes, this! for almost everything! and the wild thing is that winning smaller games can even make you a more interesting/viable player in bigger games. eg: it's often better to be the best author in a weird obscure niche than an average "mainstream" authorhttps://twitter.com/bobbygforlib/status/1269976501266587649 …
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mrbobbyg @bobbygforlibReplying to @visakanvI think a lot of people try to attract too broad an audience while dating. From my experience, if you are 60% attractive to 50% of potential partners that's going to result in a lot fewer dates than being 80% attractive to 20% of people, because it's a winner takes all game.8 replies 1 retweet 51 likesShow this thread -
this might be surprising to some people (survivor bias... ya'll are the survivors) but I have lost thousands of twitter followers over the years because I tweet too much but tweeting less would be a mistake on my part! it would be a compromise that neither of us would like
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was just reminded of this 2011 OKCupid study that demonstrates this, which is apparently counterintuitive to a lot of peoplehttps://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1269982910062329857 …
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so like... the weird thing that happens in the world is that lots of people twist themselves into really painful contortions trying to fit into the mainstream frame... when they would actually experience a lot more success and happiness if they let their freak flags fly
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I think the phenomenon fundamentally boils down to people's aversion to being disliked I think people are afraid of losing more than they are hungry to winpic.twitter.com/wKm8Eipt7N
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to zoom all the way out – maybe it's possible that actually most people are doing what's optimal for them given their risk profile, personality, relationship with fear, etc, and that I'm weird. my friendgraph is now also largely made up of weirdos. so...

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I do find that when this topic comes up in conversation, people are consistently surprised when I nudge them to think this through (it resonates better when it's about the specifics of whatever you're going through), and I've witnessed a few dozen people obtain better outcomes
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though again, maybe this is only true for "the kind of person who's interested in talking with some weirdo like
@visakanv"
life is very funny, there are all these things you might never be able to really know3 replies 0 retweets 27 likesShow this thread
there’s a heavy bias in both society and our genetic legacy that says “if you are ostracized, you’ll probably die” In the past there was often a coming of age ceremony where you had to survive on your own to become an adult before being accepted by the tribe, to push thru this
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