Thing I tend to ignore in my quasi poly advocacy tweets because I think it's obvious but maybe I should spell out: most poly is not as good as I'm making out to be, because poly people are people, and most people are fuckups.
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What I'm trying to describe is poly the ideal. Not like the fantasy romance wedding to a Disney princex like a lot of monogamy the ideal advocacy goes, but poly the practical ideal that actual human beings can reasonably hope to implement.
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But people are scared and fragile and also fundamentally bad at learning from experience in a way that means that many (most?) poly relationships fall short of this. Many of them tend to improve over time, or fail when they don't, but many do end up stuck in bad patterns.
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But the practical ideal of poly is fairly achievable (my relationships are genuinely pretty close to what I'm describing) if you're able to find the right people to work at it with, and I think it's important to convey some of what that's like.
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philisophically poly
emotionally hyperpoly.
practically ace.
it’s complicated.
love in the time of a pandemic i guess
but in this case, the pandemic is anxious humans.
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