Each day this month I’m posing one question — to ponder yourself, discuss with your team, or answer below.
My answer to today's question: The willingness to offer genuine, unconditional kindness to complete strangers.
Feedback doesn't have to be either candid or kind.
Good feedback is candid *and* kind. And it's even better when it's actionable.
The magic formula: Candid + Kind + Actionable
Anthony Kim was tabbed the next Tiger Woods. Instead he became the sports world's J.D. Salinger. We pondered his brief, brilliant career, the legend growing from his prolonged silence and the supposed duties of immense talent: https://nytimes.com/2023/01/26/sports/golf/anthony-kim-tiger-woods.html…
When faced with a tough problem, don't ask, "What should I do?"
Instead, ask, "What could I do?"
"Should" narrows your options. "Could" widens your possibilities.
It's all explained in this 90-second Pinkcast video.
Three-word summary of this smart new book: Friends are medicine.
Close relationships reduce our stress, improve our health, and extend our life.
More: http://ow.ly/pBkF50Mt1NV
Parks & greenery aren't just about beauty & leisure.
They're also about public health.
New research in BMJ shows that frequent visits to green spaces are associated w/ reduced need for mental health meds, blood pressure meds, and asthma meds.
Link: https://oem.bmj.com/content/oemed/early/2023/01/05/oemed-2022-108491.full.pdf…
If you're partway through a book or movie, and it's just not great, there's no moral obligation to finish. Put it down, turn it off, and move on.
You've got one funky badass life to live. Don't squander it.
#SunkCostFallacy
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As we get older, we regret what we *didn't* do much more than what we did.
Over time, regrets of inaction easily outnumber regrets of action.
The lesson for 2023?
Start that business. Write that novel. Ask out that crush. Take your shot.
) 2022 Personal Annual Report will be the best thing you do today.
He offers 7 simple questions to help you evaluate last year and put this year on a path toward productivity and meaning.
Link: https://fsmisc.s3.ca-central-1.amazonaws.com/2022+AR.pdf
The B-52s were right: We should roam if we want to.
Research shows that wandering to new, varied and unexpected places boosts happiness and sharpens creativity.
Resolution: Make 2023 a Wander Year.
Is sugar the new nicotine?
Even controlling for other factors, kids w. a sugar-heavy diet were:
- More likely to develop diabetes, high cholesterol & arthritis as adults.
- Less likely to attend university, land skilled jobs & build wealth.
https://nber.org/papers/w30799
Some questions to ponder about the year nearing its end:
- What word or phrase would you choose to define this past year?
- What was the best new thing you tried this past year?
- Who made a difference in your life this year?
More:
The world map you have in your head probably needs revising:
- Venice, Italy, is as far north as Minneapolis, Minnesota.
- All of South America lies to the east of Jacksonville, Florida.
- South America is closer to Africa than to Houston, Texas.
Pick two of your 2022 regrets, then use them to fashion your 2023 resolutions.
More advice & ideas -- including people's sexual regrets! -- in this conversation with
Research on soccer penalty kicks shows:
- Players miss more when their turn falls later in the shootout.
- When converting means their team instantly *wins*, players make 92% of shots.
- But when missing means instantly *losing*, that drops to 62%.