Two things I know for sure are going to happen in the coming days/weeks as the "incel" phenomenon gains widespread notoriety: 1) people will mock and insult 'incels' 2) that will make things a lot worse
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Mocking incels as being losers, babies, basement-dwellers, neckbeards, and rejects doesn't have any effect on them because THEY ALREADY KNOW YOU SEE THEM THAT WAY. That is, in fact, their organizing principle.
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Holding them up for ridicule only serves to deepen their belief that the world is against them, and that 'normies' see them as worthless. It deepens their hatred and sense of isolation and persecution.
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For the vast majority of "incels", I suspect that their self-loathing and arrogance (a weird combo, to be sure) is a better explanation for their social isolation than "Stacys only want to fuck Chads", but extremist ideologies aren't concerned with finding empirical truth, so...
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But that's also why extending sympathy isn't the right approach either. They will, in my experience, see it either as pity (which feeds their narrative) or acceptance of their beliefs (which feeds their self-righteousness).
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The only thing that's ever worked for me is to attack the pillars of their belief system relentlessly. It's based on some pretty simple and disprovable axioms, rooted in gender essentialism and stereotypes.
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Mock their beliefs. Not the people who hold them. They think they are in possession of Deep Important Truths(tm). They do NOT like it when those Truths are revealed to be vapid, or when they are treated as the childish nonsense they are.
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But if (/when) the narrative becomes about how incels are losers who can't get laid, it will only serve to confirm their belief that masculinity is about domination and sexual conquest, and that society looks down on men who can't achieve those things.
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I would also, just as a matter of tactics, suggest that you never allow yourself to be drawn in to a 'debate' with an "incel". They've put more time than you can fathom into confirming their beliefs. Talking ABOUT them is fine. Talking TO them is a monumental waste of time.
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I also this this piece by
@DrNerdLove is essential reading to understand the specific pain and fear that drives "incels" and a lot of men who are sympathetic to their arguments:http://www.doctornerdlove.com/fear-of-being-invisible/ …Show this thread
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