Yes, the problem is men. BUT this problem manifests b/c the problem with men is unwillingness to restrain women and that out of control women are a social disaster. The way to solve this is to get men to acknowledge it *by pointing out the bad behavior of unrestrained women*.
That's precisely the point. Men have gone though selective filters since the neolithic for cooperative behavior. Women have not and are mostly equipped with pre-modern brains. The inevitable result of almost all women successfully leaving offspring and men being filtered.