𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

"You can look trans and still be beautiful!" I absolutely believe this about every trans woman. Except me.

Different people experience their gender in different ways. To some people it's a feeling they have about themselves. But to me, that's not enough, that's only the very beginning.

There's a meme from one of my 2016 vids that's been circulating lately: "I look inside myself and ask: 'Do I feel like a man or a woman?' And the answer is I feel like shit." Well, that's still kind of true.

Because to me "feeling like a woman" isn't just a matter of private conviction. It's also a matter of how I live, how I'm perceived, how other people interact with me. So it's not just how I feel about myself; everyone around me is also involved in this.

Which means that I don't just want to feel like a woman. I want to look, sound, smell (HRT is great for that actually, don't tell the cis) like a woman. Maybe this is internalized transphobia that I need to work on but fuck it here it is: I want to look female.

And the "black pill" is that if you started transitioning as a 6'1" 28-year-old AMAB, looking female is very difficult. But it's a goal I've been pursuing pretty much constantly, which involves obsessively trying to discover the truth about how I'm doing.

And discovering the truth is very, very difficult. In part because there is no truth. Or rather, there's a million different truths because different people perceive you differently.

I get very mixed feedback on how well I pass. On the one hand, a lot of trans people tell me "you pass 100% 10/10 A+ mission accomplished, perfect." And I have had the experience of meeting cis people who didn't realize I was trans until I mentioned it.