𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

Because this wasn’t just about science or sociology – even though that stuff was masterfully handled – it was about one’s freedom to define yourself in relation to that. Content aside, in form, it said to me not just that my transness was valid,

but that transness isn’t something any perspective can invalidate. And regarding content, answereed question I’ve never been brave enough to ask: it said that the link between transness and sexuality doesn’t represent the link between femininity and sexuality.

The degree to which transness applies to your sex life doesn’t necessarily speak to your feelings about women, it speaks to how your physical urges express themselves when your relationship with your body is marked by dysphoria.

Maybe I’ll decide I’m not trans; that’s still possible. But I don’t feel like the fact wearing daisy dukes gives me a boner invalidates it anymore, and that’s a huge weight off my mind.

You said yourself that it’s shallow of cis people to ask why can’t more trans people be like you. Angry trans women are heroes; I’m relying on them to keep me safe as I go further into transition. But I wouldn’t be able to acknowledge myself as trans if it wasn’t for

trans women like you who are simply themselves, and spectacular. That cuts through the politicization and allows us to learn about ourselves. Part of why I denied being trans for a while was because of a post I saw about supporting trans women with male pattern baldness.

It’s a good post and I adore it, but it also made me assume that, since I’ve got a prominent M-line, I would never pass and couldn’t try. That illusion wasn’t dispelled by activism, it was dispelled by a trans friend of mine discussing her haircare process.

So I suppose what I’m saying is… never, ever, ever think that you don’t help people. I know you get a lot of shit from the trans community for stuff like interacting with Blaire White. Maybe there’s validity to that shit; I don’t think so, but I’m new to being trans.