𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

Well, I think a big part of the answer is pointed out in this till-now neglected thread, probably the most incisive criticism I've ever received on Twitter. https://twitter.com/radian2pi/status/927079183066521600 …

Essentially I have dropped my original ironic persona. I've recently been producing intensely personal and intimate content, especially on my live-stream channel: transition update streams, late-night ASMR whisper sessions, etc.

Many people succumb to the delusion that they are friends with their favorite content creators. I have succumbed to the reverse delusion: that my audience is my friend.

I have come to rely almost exclusively on my audience for emotional support. I confide to them the details of my transition. I rely on their approval for my own feelings of self-worth.

When I put it this way it sounds so transparently reckless and deranged. And other people in my life have been trying to warn me I was doing this for more than a year. But I haven't listened.

I have let real-life relations slip. I have neglected friends. I have destroyed a few relationships altogether. Because I am completely obsessed with my online life. This is bad.

And it's bad for my audience too. ESPECIALLY my trans audience. They see themselves in me, they identify with me, and then, when I fuck up (as they see it) I violate the illusion hideously and they feel used and deceived.

So what do I do about this? Well first of all I need to set up some goddamn boundaries. No more transition update streams. No more midnight whispers. No more intimate shit about my trans experience or any of that.