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To be a trans woman is to become a contestant in an extremely high-stakes beauty contest.
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I theoretically knew this would happen, but it's still been a little shocking to experience first hand the way men in particular just can't help themselves commenting on my attractiveness—even if their relationship to me is familial or medical.
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And it's not just a matter of vanity or romantic eligibility—being fuckable is the key that grants you access to acceptance, public safety, even medical treatment.
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In my case the consensus seems to be that I'm at least sexually plausible. And isn't that just fuckin great for me. Well, yes. Yes it is. But the fact that it MATTERS so much also has a negative psychological effect.
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When I was filming last night I threw a big tantrum because I didn't look pretty enough, and I redid all my makeup and reshot a whole scene. This isn't the person I want to be. I should be above tantrums about makeup.
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But but because the stakes are so high, it's about more than just vanity and I sort of can't be above it. It sucks.
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Oh—and I'm not even complaining about the compliments from men. This is a brag, not a humble brag. They're complimenting me because they think it matters to me. And they're right. It matters a lot.
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Physical attractiveness is essentially a barrier for entry when you're trans. If you're not "pretty" enough you're "not actually a woman".
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yes that's exactly what I'm talking about
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This is a consequence of two things I've noticed, bigoted gate-keeping on one side & the reaction against it on the other, where people 1/2
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2/2 instead of challenging the prejudicial views on society's beauty standards for trans-women, they go out of their way to push compliments
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Oh honey. Yeah. Men never, never stop thinking how we look is their fucking business now. It sucks.
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