𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

exactly. talk about how preferences are shaped by the -isms but STOP telling people they aren't allowed to say no in certain circumstances

I agree that Riley's framing it as a response to "you can say no for any reason" is the wrong move.

But I also find it frustrating that people constantly interpret Riley as some kind of sinister rapist when that's clearly not what's up

it is. let's take the transphobes out of the equation for a sec. do you get why a lot of women are upset about this type of rhetoric?

I think 1. to have the "dating prefs can be bigoted" convo you have to tread with extreme caution so that people don't think you're saying..

...they're bad people for not sleeping with person X. But I also think 2. no matter how careful you are, YT shitlords will respond as if—

—you said "everyone has to sleep with me or they're racist transphobic Nazis"

Dating prefs can be bigoted bc people can be bigoted. When you say they don't have the right to say no, you start advocating for rape.