𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

Still other trans people said it's definitely transphobic, & a couple said that my use of it is furthermore evidence that *I'm* transphobic.

So what I have is 95% of people saying I'm totally fine, don't worry about it. And it's tempting to believe them. However...

(It's also tempting to get defensive when I'm called transphobic—"That's outrageous! All my best friends are trans! etc etc")

However, it's better to avoid these temptations. Cis people don't usually have very good intuitions about what's transphobic.

And the fact that I have trans friends & care deeply about trans issues doesn't mean that I'm invulnerable to being inadvertently offensive.

I do think that calling *me* transphobic because of this is unfair.

But when I asked, I discovered that "mangirl" is sometimes used as a slur. And I didn't know that. I thought I made it up to describe myself

But if I'd known it was used as a slur, I would not have put in on my profile in the first place. And the only way I found out is by asking.