𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

(It's also tempting to get defensive when I'm called transphobic—"That's outrageous! All my best friends are trans! etc etc")

However, it's better to avoid these temptations. Cis people don't usually have very good intuitions about what's transphobic.

And the fact that I have trans friends & care deeply about trans issues doesn't mean that I'm invulnerable to being inadvertently offensive.

I do think that calling *me* transphobic because of this is unfair.

But when I asked, I discovered that "mangirl" is sometimes used as a slur. And I didn't know that. I thought I made it up to describe myself

But if I'd known it was used as a slur, I would not have put in on my profile in the first place. And the only way I found out is by asking.

So I think I should, in fact, remove it. Not because I capitulate to everyone who is offended, but because 1. there's at least a plausible..

reason why it might come across the wrong way and 2. this is not something that's deeply important to me.