𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

Ok but actually though like, the stigmatization of chasers having gone this far is 1) a furthering of the stigma of dating trans women and 2) only enforces this same idea that makes men self-conscious (and lets be honest, violent) about sleeping with/dating trans women

honestly this discourse did freak me out a bit. As a cis white person I'm afraid of doing harmful shit without meaning too. Most of my romantic history is with trans women, but I never set out to find a trans girl to date. It just kept happening.

You like what you like. Treat people as whole, individual people deserving respect, and you’re good.

to EVERYONE, apparently: "CHASERS" DOESN'T MEAN "MEN WHO ARE ATTRACTED TO TRANS WOMEN", IT MEANS "MEN WHO KNOWING THAT TRANS WOMEN ARE IN A GREATER POSITION TO BE EXPLOITED THAN MOST, EXPLOIT THEM FOR SEX"

and yes this is a thing that happens it's both disgusting and frightening behavior, and as far as I've seen like 99.9% of people don't even know what "chaser" means, so I don't think the discourse has gone "too far" by any means

This is how many (most?) fat girls feel, too. I don't want to be chased/fetishized, but I do want someone I'm with to be into all of me. Tolerating my body or pretending all the parts of it aren't there is not hot.

Accentuating this problem, if someone IS attracted to fat women/men/literally anyone, there's almost NO erotica that isn't presented as fetishy! Which means a lot of them ABSORB the creepy language and behavior, because it's the only way their feelings are contextualised to 'em

idk if it’s more internalized transphobia—“if someone really loves me they’ll hate the same parts of me i hate”—or just a flat distrust/fear of cis men probably a mix of both. i know those are both things i’ve struggled with a lot

It is not like we cisgender men have a track record of trustworthiness to fall back on. So there is that.