𝓝𝓪𝓽𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓮 𝓦𝔂𝓷𝓷  💎

As a cishet guy who tries to be aware but is always a little behind, I want to tell you a thing that I literally did not know until today just in case you are also quietly avoiding having this ever come up.

I have lots of trans / non-binary friends who have changed names and / or pronouns in the time I've known them, and I never really knew what to do when referring to the times when I knew them before they transitioned.

I'm sorry if this should have been painfully obvious but, I just didn't know and I was afraid to ask. So let me share! To support your friends (unless otherwise requested), use the name and gender they have now to refer to all of the previous moments of their lives.

A couple real-life examples: When Jackson and I wrestled at LeakyCon 2011, I was surprised by his strength and agility. or When Valerie designed Pizza John, they had no idea what a damn monster they had created.