This dad is getting a lot of hate, and he shouldn't. His is a COMMON experience. Mine is different, however know the risks. A thread....about why I'm glad I waited to have kids until my late 30's.pic.twitter.com/kJyCSn8qbm
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I did not have kids because I wanted to - Lift weights - Write a great book - Travel - Party I did all of that, and it was great, and don't trust anyone who said it's not. And then I decided to start a family....Which shows me another world.
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Without kids, men live cheaply. It really is a joke how cheap it is to be a man. If I wanted to learn a new subject, do nothing but read books all week while working and hitting the gym, could do this, no problem. If boss was a dick, just quit, whatever. Kids change it.
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If you're a man and not a total idiot, without kids, you can work 10 months and travel two. Travel is NOT that expensive, don't read those luxury mags. It's attainable if it's just you and some bros.
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Once you have children, and again, my first daughter is two and it's incredible. It is really hard to get "deep work" done. A man's best and more creative work is done after days or weeks of solitude. You can say goodbye to this.https://theamericanscholar.org/solitude-and-leadership/ …
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Once you're a parent, a lot of your time is wiping butts, cleaning up messes. And the emotional needs your partner will have. Moms put INSANE (literally the propaganda fed to moms is absolutely unrealistic and self-defeating) pressure on themselves, and that flows over to dad.
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So you go from a bro who can do whatever he wants, doesn't need much cash and can tell anyone to f-ck off....to your time is highly regimented and your child has needs as does a partner. And a parter is where most men go waaaay wrong.
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Men get goo-goo eyes for a pretty lady (being heteronormative cuz that's my audience). But my guys, you're not marrying a woman. You're marrying your child's MOM. What you find fun is much different than good VALUES.
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@ShaunaGee and all of that, but the Western world romanticizes love. If you're going to have children - Does she want to be a mom? - Are her parents going to be involved? - Do your parents share YOUR values? Those are the issues men overlook, and it hurts later!Show this thread -
But most men are DORKS, they find the first girl who "loves them back," and they just get married cuz they are afraid of losing The One. And suddenly they are having children, and their lives implode. Because they didn't choose a MOTHER for their children. Now its Hell.
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A healthy relationship is NOT 50-50. It's 90-10 and 90-10. Mom runs her side and Dad runs his. But everyone thinks everything is 50-50, a f-cking committee.
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Also, parents are stressed because life is stressful. Children present a fixed economic cost. Every month you gotta meet rent, and all of that. And you are lose TIME FREEDOM. In those ways, worst of both worlds. You're broke and can't do what you want.
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Either way works. You can have kids early and travel and party later
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The most rewarded experience ever
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Thank you for this. I’m in my late thirties, did all of that, and now, ready for a family. Hope it’s not too late.
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I waited until I 37 to start adding children to our family. I love every moment of being their father and I never feel like his tweet.
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This whole thread is so spot on. I've been reflecting on this for the past few months. 4 yrs and 2 kids deep it's staggering how much time and self is given to kids. I'm grateful I married late, and have the financial stability to spend the time. But the struggle is real
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u risk getting seriously ill kids if u conceive after 30. bad advice, Cernovich!
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