I appreciate the effort shown

If a kid said to their parents, “if we don’t get a dog i’m going to kill myself” how much of a side eye would you give the parents who got the kid a dog? It is weirdto me that puberty blockers are the exception to the rule that suicide is never an ok bargaining chip.

I’d say to the kid “yr business right now is selling me on the idea this has to happen now rather than on your dime at 18. Threatening suicide rather than coming at me w/ a powerpoint is exceptionally bad persuasion.”

I’m being serious about expecting some PowerPoints. Kid has got to prove to me they have a plan for long term healthcare, they know how a prior authorization works, they’ve identified career paths where they get generous medical leave and social support, all the problem solving!

And I’d also say, “or you can wait the (blank) # of days till I’ve got no parental duties and this is solely your business. Depends on how urgent this really feels. If it’s urgent better work on your deck.”