My wife makes more than me and I am very happy about that. And not just because I am in a field with notoriously low pay.
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এই থ্রেডটি দেখানধন্যবাদ। আপনার সময়রেখাকে আরো ভালো করে তুলতে টুইটার এটিকে ব্যবহার করবে। পূর্বাবস্থায়পূর্বাবস্থায়
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I never understood this. I feel like my husband would be stoked to have a sugar mama.
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I'm cynically thinking it might have something to do with this -- holding "my wife earns more than me" and "I do less than half of the housework" in one's head at the same time must cause some serious cognitive dissonance that has to get resolved one way or another.
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I wonder if putting a question abt household contribution or somesuch might change that. Srsly, it's easy to snark but many families find other benefits--flexibility for dad to stay home w/sick kid--make it worth it in ways that often aren't appreciated, as on this govt form.
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I am well compensated, and earn far more than my wife, but I have turned down more money for positions that would restrict my flexibility to be present for our son. I also contribute around 40-50% of the housework/child-rearing activities.
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"We find that, parallel to gender role theory, when men make less money than their wives and experience gender role threat, they do less housework regardless of the recession." https://riviste.unige.it/aboutgender/article/view/176 …
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Well don't that just beat all? That's actually a disturbing finding
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Is it "disturbing" to learn that most men don't want a woman who outearns them, or has more education, or whatever? Or the "disturbing" part is to know that most men don't want to take an equal share of house work or child care? Nothing of this surprises me, or most women, at all
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I don't know any men who fill those out, so is it the wives? Was that asked?
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I was waiting to read all the replies & then share... I made more money than my husband. There was a period, because he is blue-collar, & his work was exported to Mexico, he was without work. Going out, I slipped him the money to pay. Why? Because the severity of his sadness.
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I'd watch him pretty much beg for work on the phone. He'd do anything for cash, hauling, digging ditches, crawling up in engines in huge semis, using his truck for dumping. No job came. He began real silent. Getting up at night. Not sleeping.
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This is when I first started realizing how much he stressed work, job, money, status. So much more than me. His care was suicide severe. Like, I was terrified to go to work because I honestly though he'd kill himself. He watched our kids sleep, and have tears rolling down.
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He'd say things like: I'm letting my kids down. My sons need to see their dad providing. I don't want them to see you working more, they miss you. I'm supposed to be the one gone. Things got really scary. He lost a lot of weight. Became isolated. He was ashamed.
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He cared a helluva lot more than I THOUGHT it did to me. But, I am one of those women who write my husband makes more than me. You see, his view of manhood is based on my view & expectations. I expected him to make more than me. There are a lot of things I expect from him...
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Things I didn't notice. I do now. As of today, he does makes more than me. If he didn't, I'd still write he did. There are things he does for me, to not break my pride. I'm a hard woman. There are just things we do, I guess to not break each other, or maybe just expectation.
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This is a threat to the “script” for romantic relationships. Folks may not be intentionally lying—confabulating might be a better word. Deeply, subconsciously, we want our stories to match the (only) script we know. We *need* more and better stories, stat.
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I'm back to thinking about the effects stories have on our sense of ourselves and each other in a big way because of stuff like this! Pop culture requires a lot of serious consideration.
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Bizarre. How often? 100%? 50%?
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"They found that when wives earn more than their husbands, husbands report earnings that are 2.9 percentage points higher when they respond to surveys compared to what’s in their tax filings." Say the husband malde 30k a year, he would tell the census he made 30,840 (on average)
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So that was across the board, 100% of the time? It always happened? If not, what was the percentage of times that it happened? Did ANY male who earned less admit to that fact?
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The report is not clear (at least the part I read). I would bet it is an average, some men were accurate and some men were way off.
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Yeah, unfortunately that doesn't give a very clear picture of the issue. Better for social media than for real discussion.
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Totally. The full report is here. I scanned through it, but my history degree was not exactly math heavy. It might have the answers you are looking for. https://www.census.gov/library/working-papers/2018/demo/SEHSD-WP2018-20.html …
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