I stayed up late last night planning my #ItsNotOK week (with a different theme for each day) not knowing it's also #ChildrensMentalHealthWeek, so bear with me as I make today up as I go ! #FindYourBrave
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The 1st useful tool that comes 2 my mind 4 recognising & addressing mental & physical ill-health risk in children & adults is the Adverse Childhood Experiences test created by
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Childhood trauma has a lasting impact on people's lives. Higher ACE score = greater risk 1 has of experiencing mental/physical ill-health. The ACE test asks about whether u experienced abuse, neglect or other common traumas in childhood. It doesn't ask about racism or bullying
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My ACE score is 5 (which is high) but it doesn't take into account what I also consider to be my major childhood traumas; racism and bullying. It also doesn't recognise the compound effect of these intersecting issues, for example, racialised bullying and racialised sexual abuse.
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I also want to talk about how common it was in my childhood (in Australia in the 80s) for men to expose their genitals to children, and how teachers would deal with it (shoo us away & call police) but not explain anything to us kids, or talk to us to find out how we were feeling.
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The 1st time I saw a flasher, it happened @ school when I was 5. He exposed himself by pushing his penis thru chain link fence. My friend cried about it @ home w/ her parents, who then told my parents, who then asked me about it. I felt really disturbed, but unable to express it.
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At the time, I didn't show any obvious signs of distress, but I actually froze & repressed it. 20 yrs later, when a man masturbated in front of me on a 10AM train, I tried to call the police but kept accidentally hanging up on them as my hands were trembling with so much fear.
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Separate 2 those incidents, I was molested from ages 5-11 by my neighbour/piano teacher. He would also show me photos he'd taken of children from his holidays to the Philippines; I sensed he was sexually attracted to them 2. I hated him but didn't have the words/power to say why.
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When I was 11, the man who'd molested me since I was 5 had a heart attack when he was giving me a piano lesson. He died I smiled I felt confused & guilty about that smile for years afterwards. I now know that I smiled because I felt relieved.
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Suffice to say that my mental health suffered greatly. My earliest memory of depression and severe loneliness was when I was 8 years old, the year after my family and I moved from a somewhat racially diverse area of Melbourne to a more homogeneous (white) area.
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Also note: Years later, my friend's mother (also friends w/ my mum) told me she knew I disliked my piano teacher, and why. Her daughters had the same teacher, but she stopped their lessons after she'd seen him touch them inappropriately. And yet she didn't tell my mum.
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