A “good guy” after he’s isolated himself from his girlfriend but she still won’t break it off because she’s conditioned to withstand abuse:pic.twitter.com/pEcqA4Relr
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And the real reason is most men just don’t want to hash out the emotional baggage that comes with breaking up with someone so they choose blanket statements when they do. Cover all their bases and don’t have to do emotional labor. Many men are lazy.
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That’s where this whole notion of “closure” comes into play because some women are leaving relationships not really understanding what went wrong. He only told her “It’s not you, it’s me” or “I can’t be the man you want me to be”.
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In reality, there could’ve been many things the woman needed to work on. But instead of hashing all of that out and being honest, men look for easy ways out. Passive aggression/gaslighting/patronizing/blantsnt lying.
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Women do not enter/exit relationships absolved of flaws, more men need to work on communication throughout relationships with them if they want any semblance of happiness. Otherwise, you (men) and holding yourself hostage. Nobody else.
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In the end, women have to be okay with no having closure. Sadly, we are used to just saying “fuck it”. But what happens years later? The man comes back finally ready to hash things out and articulate why he wanted to leave. Talmbout growth.
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If you men can’t articulate why you want to break up and really hash out the emotional baggage of it all, DO NOT come back into her life years later, flipping her world upside down now that you’ve gotten your communication skills up. Shut the fuck up at this point.
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