Talking to my grandmother about generational trauma and seeing how she perpetuated it really was the final straw for me.
To hear her say the same things about my mother as my mother has said to me? "She had a good childhood. I did the best I could."
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And it's to say that as soon as you bring up some trauma you experienced as a child, their whole ego kicks in to refute that.
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They instantly become defensive. Making it about them rather than their child's experience. It's vv selfish & the opposite of motherhood.
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My grandmother on my mother being SA as a child "that didn't happen to her, she made that up. My bf at the time wasn't like that."
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Many mothers go into defending the choice they made rather than admitting their choices put their child second.
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Imagine your mother defending your perpetrator, 40+ years AFTER the fact.
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I honestly refuse. I refuse to continue the cycle. I am breaking that bitch wide the fuck open.
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It really ends with me. I'm my mothers first kid & only daughter. My mother was my grandmother's first kid & only daughter.
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I definitely feel my family's generational trauma manifests in a way that we will continue to carry that trauma with firstborn daughters.
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