I’ve muted the conversation because I’m not going to argue with men who do not see how they contribute to burdening women with their unresolved issues. If you are someone that needs to seek therapy, you can find an affordable therapist here: https://openpathcollective.org/
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This is true. Men really need to learn how to be vulnerable to other men and hold one another’s vulnerability. It’s work worth doing, and is a concrete thing men can do to unburden the women in their lives.
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Some resources: - http://bmenfoundation.org (men of color-focused, discussion groups) - The Mask You Live In (documentary) - Relationship Co-counseling (they do pretty interesting interpersonal masculinity work) - The Good Men Project - Men Can Stop Rape
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Ladies most times it’s emotional manipulation , that’s how they TRICK these women into thinking his the ONE, with his sob story lines “dONT wOrRY BaBeS I’m HeRE fOR yOU” go book yourself into therapy...I’m not here to fix your life when I’m still trying to fix mine kmt
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Wheww chile... been there done that
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It’s the wicked GAMES they play and here you are thinking he’s so honest and open with me he must trust me “I nEeD To SaVE HiM”....girl bye save yourself and yourself ONLY !!!!
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This was 1 of my biggest downfalls... being broken myself and attracting broken men. With the hope i could heal him. Here you are downloading your stresses on me and you have taken my energy? Come like 1 LEECH... ladies beware, see the difference!!
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Preaachhh
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And then u invest all of your emotional energy into trying to make him a better person ultimately all going to waste because they can’t reciprocate and now you’ve wasted time you could have spent investing in yourself
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I’m so glad I learned this lesson early
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I think what's even more dangerous is that they still don't think it's therapy, they think it's totally normal (kind of like how they think all their unchecked emotions are actually irrefutable objective truths or whatever rationalization they claim is pure logic)
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I also notice that when men do this and in my advice I mention that I am not fully equipped to work through all their stuff with them and that they might really benefit from therapy, they’ll get mad
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you must know my ex LMFAO
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LMAO girl and most of mine
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As a man I’m very guilty of doing this unfortunately.
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Friends of both sexes are often used this way, its part of having relationships & humanity.
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This is actually not what we’re talking about at all. Venting to friends and listening to our friends is different. Friends don’t burden each other the way emotionally underdeveloped men burden women they choose as their “love doctor” so to speak
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It's not, all relationships platonic or romantic have this potential. It obviously depends if you're a particularly empathic person or not though.
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Because- lmao, gotta be honest with you my guy, I have never experienced something like what we’re talking about from any platonic relationship or even had somethING COME CLOSE! And yet, I’ve been mom therapist to multiple men. Lmfao
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I don't give a fuck what you experienced. I said every relationship has that potential, not that it will. As a student of sociology, cultural anthropology & of counselling. I tend to base my opinions more on personal or anecdotal experience.
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Uh huh. You are definitely more educated on this even though you insist it’s the same as anything else. Sure dude. Sure
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