People who say it's all hard work and no luck—they probably don't work very hard, and they probably get very lucky.
The truth is you need both. But all you can control is the hard work, so focus there. The more good things you do the greater chance one will catch a wave of luck.
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Humility requires doing real things.
It's hard to lose touch with reality—or to become full of yourself—when you are working on something that is concrete, when your successes are earned and your failures cannot be rationalized by corporate mumbo jumbo or social media hot takes.
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If your mind is stuck move your body.
Every year more research is published showing that we are mind-body systems. If the body is stagnant for too long the mind becomes stagnant too. Something as simple as brisk walking increases creativity and problem solving by 40 percent.
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Set boundaries and eliminate assholes from your life, physically and digitally.
Emotions are contagious. Anger is one of the worst. You do not need to make time or space for assholes. Life is way too short for that.
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Define success on your own terms.
Conventional success examples:
-Bestseller
-Big promotion
-Fancy car
-Lots of square feet home
Real success examples:
-Control over how you spend your time, energy
-Knowing your core values and living in alignment with them
-Belonging and love
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Go for broke you end up broken. Consistent small steps lead to big gains.
Anyone can put together a heroic workout or an all-nighter at the office and then post it on Instagram. It's not that hard.
What is hard: quiet daily work with restraint over time. And that's what works.
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Do not compare yourself to others, especially not to their virtual selves.
There is a difference between a front stage and back stage self. Sometimes the people who put fourth the most perfect front stage self are those whose back stage self is falling apart. Lots of airbrush.
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Despair is enticing. It can creep up on you. There is plenty of good cause for it in today's world. But despair does no good.
Do not bury your head in the sand. Do not be pollyanna. Accept what is and then do everything in your power to take hopeful, wise action regardless.
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Optimization and efficiency look quite different based on the time horizon.
Short-term optimization and efficiency means crushing yourself and working non-stop and measuring everything.
Long term optimization and efficiency means building community, learning to go by feel.
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Change is hard. Life is change. Life is hard.
You can argue this is the central premise of all the ancient wisdom traditions and applied philosophy schools—and also of physics, biology, psychology, and so on.
Sometimes the best you can do is just keep showing up. That's plenty.
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It's great to see the above resonating with so many people.
Worth pointing out: many of these ideas are the basis of The Practice of Groundedness, which came out earlier this year. Best way to learn more? The book.
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