Heidi O'Ferrall ✨

Although many fans think of Aries as being Jared's cat, I actually raised Aries from kittenhood. I had him for 4 years before we met Jared, and I hope to have him for many years after. He's my extremely loyal familiar. His warmth and constant presence helped me survive.

Custody of our cat Aries was never in question. Aries actually made his own decision about this. The night I left Jared's bedroom, Aries leapt off the bed and trotted after me. Never looked back

I *usually* use Twitter to post cosplay and artwork. My friend @quicksparrows just posted a little intro to my work. I'm honored. Thank you https://twitter.com/quicksparrows/status/1126499121370628096 …

I would never, ever take him back though. I can't be a part of his healing and we're better off separate. I still hope he recovers for his own sake.

That said, I can only speak for myself. Draw your own conclusions, sure, and feel your feelings. Your response is valid too. My point here is really just that I am not trying to incite hate towards Jared. I don't hate him. I would prefer to see him get help and heal.

I know Jared has been hurting for a long time in ways I don't fully understand. I still empathize with him. He was my best friend for 7 years. I want to be the type of person who can still draw on compassion in spite of their own pain. I'm still working on that, but I want it.

During these last few months I was made to feel like I was tainted and unforgivable. That's one of the worst feelings in the world. I do not wish that on anyone, not even the people who hurt me

I'm not a fan of cancel culture. Of course you should follow the people you like and ignore the ones you don't. But I also believe people are redeemable, if they want to be and work for it.

I tweeted something a while back along the lines of, "all I can do is keep living with integrity and the right people will see it" This is what I meant. I was powerless to change Jared, so I worked on myself. I leveled up.

Anyway I've spent the last year working on my own mental health and making fairy houses. I've been focused in my goals. I just moved out into my own place. I want nothing more in life but to escape my cheating husband and the reach of his social influence

Tbh I don't even want people to hate Jared. That's not the point. I don't hate him. I think he needs help and I hope he gets it. My story and pain are still valid, and being able to finally share this after a year of suppressing it is the most liberating experience I've ever had

He feels entitled to silence me. He thinks it's his right to keep his infidelity a secret, as though his reputation outweighs my trauma. But this is my story too. This is what I lived through. I don't need anyone's permission to share my own experience.

Any event I go to, people talk to me about Jared. Innocuous stuff about how they're fans of him too, or whatever. Dealing with that while being abused by him was excruciating. I needed to tell people what happened to escape this.

I have never dragged any friend or ex online for the sake of it. But my public figure husband cheated on me with another public figure, publicly, while fans cheered them on thinking it was fiction. I think a public conclusion is appropriate.

He was actually just cheating on me.

I held on to this marriage for SO LONG because I believed in his goodness and he gave me just enough false hope to keep me hooked. He insisted he was trying, if only I were better. I thought if I was humble & corrected myself, love would eventually win out.