Anna Rowe

Which is why I said potentially. I do not have the full facts of this case but certainly I have seen cases where there was a deceit used to obtain consent that went beyond the "little white lie"

Yes little white lies are the passive lying I discussed. Height, weight, eye colour etc.. I also find those that make mention of financial situation, shallow. But intent for a ‘union’/marital status is active lying that has harmful consequence. It’s adult paedophilia in his case

In that I’m meaning the behaviour of paedophiles but used with adults.. the grooming for the purpose of sexual exploitation.

Where does ordinary romancing & "chatting up" end and "grooming" begin???

You gave a great line in patronising comments...

I try my hardest when people seem to make light of what happened to us.I’ve sat with too many police who dismiss this saying ‘but is doesn’t look like normal rape’ no it doesn’t but it doesn’t mean it’s not real.I hate using the word rape but I could not give genuine consent.

Stereotyping all police & ex police as having those attitudes isn't going to help your cause...