Crystal Frasier

That part was true for me, but another thing that delayed my transition was how shitty the online trans community was to me in the 90s and 00s.

Shit. I’m sorry

No one was directly shitty to me online, but during that same time, I definitely remember a lot of trans communities being incredibly toxic and pushing really narrow ideas of what it meant for you to be trans, and that really chipped away at my confidence back then.

Yeah it is still like that a lot. This pride month flooded my feed with far more "shame" then "pride". How many posts about how you are just as much of a failure at being trans ad you were at your assigned gender before there is no point in being in lgbtq spaces?

I don't think it's gone away, I just struggled back then to find ANY place that didn't push the old school you have to meet these very specific criteria or you are not trans you monster, also this is miserable and don't do it unless you want to kill yourself.

For me, it was when I started seeing trans people posting vlogs on Youtube in the mid-late 00s bucking those stereotypes that I started to earn some confidence in my identity

I mean I didn’t hate my body, so I thought I wasn’t trans. I only sometimes think it might be nice to have different parts, so I thought wasn’t trans. I liked how I looked with a beard and pompadour, so I thought I wasn’t trans. I was too scared to buy a skirt, so I thought I

Yah, it was a lot of that shit. I'm attracted to women, like comics and video games, etc. It may seem incredibly obvious that in no way are those things disqualifiers for being a trans woman now, but holy fuck back then all I saw were tw pushing that hyper feminine model only

20+ because I was unaware that transition was a possibility for genderqueer folks. Feared I would be forced into the binary trans narrative.

Honestly? 20 years ago you probably would have been

Exactly my point, I was unaware that a term existed until college and then another 15 years before I felt safe asking for treatment because of the shitty narratives we had as models.

Can u give an example of a cis made stereotype so I can make sure I Do Not Do That Ever please?

Some of the common ones claim trans folk are... ...just gay men who want to marry ...always super-girly ...trans men don't exist ...never "real" ...always miserable ...GRS vaginas can "heal over" ...always ugly ...perverts who get off on crossdressing ...obsessed with surgery

To be fair, if you aren't careful, GRS CAN heal over, but its a lot less common now than before.

Um.... no, it doesn't. It's not physically possible. It can heal very shallow or tight if you don't dilate, but healing over/healing shut is a vicious urban legend

Oh. Well, guess thay goes to show you how many young trans people still buy into that myth

It's super common for people to swallow that that one. I made an in-depth explanation herehttps://twitter.com/growflet/status/950102763660369920 …

Yep! Always hated how aggressive men could be so didn't think I could possibly actually be one, despite always knowing I'd rather have been born a boy. Also for some reason didn't realise you could be both trans and gay?

Me too, but mostly because I had a conversion therapist drill it into my head that you can’t be both trans and gay