The Legendary Dragon Alephwyr, named Alephwyr, BA

This clicked when I saw someone say love is acting to increase the beloved's capacity for choice. Notice what this excludes: marriage and reproduction are acts of love that decrease the future optionality of your beloved. Love as choice-maximization is homonormativity

A much better definition of love is to protect people from their naive desires and lead them to the path of righteousness as you best understand it. Notice that my definition both contains and eclipses the emaciated view of love offered abovehttps://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1261079387354673152 …

That's partly how you know my proffered understanding of love is superior; the definition of love that fetishizes choice is a narrow, contracted spirituality. Love must be kind of binding, and freedom must be an unbinding.https://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1050389151760113667 …

When you perceive implicit norms and learn to choose against them, it really does feel like you've torn some sacred veil, as if you've awakened to a higher level of consciousness. But often cases you've only kicked away something that was propping you uphttps://twitter.com/0x49fa98/status/1111278377309102080 …

This resolves the paradox that, as much as leftists stress the importance choice, they strongly object if you try to choose heteronormativity, cissexuality, et al, because to them, that isn't actually a choice, that's the wicked default option

Observe also how the mere existence of the freedom-as-overcoming-the-default limits your freedom, not only by stigmatizing the normal, but by demanding that even the ability to make a binding commitment is wicked

"Overcoming the default" doesn't understand the value of keeping a promise, because you can't serve two masters. When choice is the highest morality, it cheapens all choices. The fetishization of choosing renders the content of any one choice meaningless

Choice-fetishizers claim "no one is stopping you from living how you want," If you want to live under a different norm, you can't, because norms don't exist at the level of an individual, they exist at the level of groups.