There's a calculus for someone like me in this situation, and it goes something like this: Who is more likely to hurt me? How badly are they likely to hurt me if they do hurt me? What recourse do I have to prevent being hurt by them? What can I recover if I am hurt by them?
I have a lot of experience being hurt, and my conclusion from this is that my chances and outcomes are better, marginally, on one side than the other. It's just pattern recognition, bros.