What if we responded to other things like we respond to ppl asking how to be more attractive?
"Your juggling skills are fine just the way they are, honey."
"You just gotta find someone else who appreciates your use of Comic Sans"
"Dance like the real you! Fuck dance lessons!"
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Ah, but here's the thing. You said you know how to do "girl magic" but it feels fake and exhausting. But juggling, dancing, etc. are all exhausting and sometimes painful too. The question is not "how can I be more attractive," but "do I want to treat being attractive as a job?"
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I want to learn how to do proper pivot spins. Every time I do it I get really dizzy and it takes all my concentration. Does anybody have any tips for methods to not get dizzy and to make it feel more natural?
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Anything falling under the umbrella of “identity” has become too emotional for (some) people to talk about rationally. And that umbrella grows bigger by the hour.
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We do, it’s called the left. Hooray for being a moron in your own unique way!
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The difference here might be in what's more innate, while the other could just be a hobby or skill.
The first is more personal. "You" come that way. It's a part that wasn't chosen.
Both can be altered, but the former entails altering something primarily your unique own.
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Do people not say those already? Haha.
Most people can see talent and skill. Attraction depends on who's looking. If you encourage someone to be more attractive, is it for their benefit or your own?
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I mean there's one ty of practical advice out there about makeup fashion and beauty, just like a lot of design blogs will have segments on trusting your instincts and overcoming imposter syndrome. Most of us need some emotional validation and affirmation and t hats okay.