You're part of Group 1, which tends to do [ABC] a lot.
When they meet you, they assume you also tend to do [ABC].
But you don't do [ABC] at all; their assumptions are wrong.
Is the responsibility on you, to try to signal you're not part of Group 1, or on them, to stop assuming?
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A little of column a, a little of column b. Column c doesn't really help either side.
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This seems oddly framed: since one IS a part of Group 1, signaling that one is not part of Group 1 is a non-starter
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fault on them, they need to understand this shit
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When scientists say that, on average, men and women differ on trait X, this is what they mean (see screenshot).
Thus the fact that you know people who more X than most men/women is not inconsistent with their claim.
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The responsibility is on whoever wants a different result. If you want to be better known, it’s on you. If they want to better know you, or avoid potentially offending you, it’s on them. It might be on both.
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Ideally, it’s on them. They have no right to assume. Realistically, if you don’t want to be identified as having the behaviors‘s of a particular group, you’ll have to differentiate yourself from the group behaviors.
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