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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I grew up in the suburbs in Idaho with some pretty intense patriarchy culture. For example, I was explicitly told that women's purpose was to have children, and it was implicitly assumed I would go to college, find a man, and use my college degree to homeschool my children.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I was told that women were good at emotions, and men were good at logic. I was told that women needed to be loved, but men were the ones who needed respect. I was taught that a woman's job was to learn to submit to the orders of her husband.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
As a kid, my parents moved. I asked my Mom why she was moving when she didn't want to, and she said, "It's not my choice. Your father is the head of the family and my role is to obey his decisions."
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I used to cry myself to sleep asking God why He hadn't let me be born a boy. I was so upset that I was the weaker gender with emotions that 'overcame' me. For several of my teenage years I cried approximately once a year because I wanted to prove that I wasn't just a weak woman.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Women weren't allowed to hold positions of authority over men in the church. My father once walked out of a bible study when a woman came to stand at the pulpit.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Obedience was stressed above all else. We were told that the relationship between God and Men was analogous to the relationship between Men and Women, and that men's role was to protect, and women's role was to obey.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Once I said I didn't want kids - that I didn't get the purpose of school if I was going to be a homeschooling housewife, and that I wanted to go learn and do things instead, and my parents got upset and told me I was selfish for not giving myself to my future children.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I bought into it. I was prepared. I practiced submitting my desires constantly so I could be a good future wife. Likewise, the boys around me were being groomed to be leaders, in their mens-only Bible studies.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
For years, even after leaving that world, I considered myself inferior - less intelligent, less driven, less brave, with submission beaten into me since infancy. It's taken a long time to see myself as equivalently capable, and I still have a long way to go.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
But I don't just blame the men - in every aspect the women around me were supporting the structure. It took me a long time to realize that this wasn't one gender oppressing the other - that by viewing it this way I was treating women as much as children as everyone else did.
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J Read
@CMidnight314
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@Aella_Girl
Sectional groups aren't to blame as much as the culture is. As being the lone male child to carry on the family name, in a family full of female aunts and cousins, so much had been placed on me to where I've oft thought this family name would be better to die off.
Fatuous Pauper
@basedc1
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@Aella_Girl
You see this with salafist Muslims as well; most women buy into & uphold the social order. That's the rub; no social system is possible w/o women's support as they are its glue and enforcers. Marxists don't get it due to their slavish devotion to oppressor/oppressed paradigm.
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ArchonTrollFinalForm
@RobControLS
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@Aella_Girl
I had a girlfriend that sucked me into the same belief system you are talking about. Its purpose has to be demoralization so that people are cut off from aspects of their self, and they become more easily controlled. any resistance to being controlled is labelled as "deviant"